How Much Time Do You Take Consciously for Your Self-Care?

Amidst life's hustle and bustle, it remains crucial to allocate time for self-checks, prioritizing our well-being. Katharina Stenger believes that we can initiate this process by taking small daily steps in practicing self-care.

Taking time to check on ourselves daily

Nick: You asked a really important question on your presentation, which we've recorded. So if people want to see Rina’s wonderful webinar, you'll have to contact me. I'm the gatekeeper. But your first question blew me away. And this relates to what we're talking about: How much time do you take consciously for your self-care?

And I imagine most people think, ‘Oh, not much time at all.’ So do you see that as a problem as well?

Rina: Yeah, this question is really important, as you would expect from any good psychologist to ask those simple yet very tricky questions. And, yeah, I think it's a question we should ask ourselves, again and again.

It also comes down, like to how we define self-care, like, what do we really do for ourselves? How do we talk to ourselves? For example, how do we react when we make a mistake? Are we caring with ourselves? Or when we are feeling down, are we caring or do we push ourselves even harder? Or say to ourselves, ‘Come on, don't take it too hard. Just go on. It's not a big deal.’

It's all about how we behave with ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and how much time do we really spend to take care of us. I think for most of the people, it's not a very long period of time during the day, but it could be accomplished with very small things, very small actions, maybe, that can boost or strengthen your self-care routine, I believe.

So making small changes in everyday life, I believe is very important. We remember like what Ken Mogi would always tell, to start small. Because if we expect ourselves to make, like a big change, right now, after we hear this podcast, for example, you think, ‘Oh, yeah, I'll make a big, big change in my lifestyle.’ Do it all, like make it all new, it can put a lot of pressure on us, a lot of mental stress, and it can be really tough to break with all habits as well. And it's very normal, it's human.

But when we start small, even by just thinking about our own self-care, this is like the first step; we can make sustainable changes. There's a famous saying by Donald Hebb, he's a neuropsychologist, and he said: ‘Neurons that fire together wire together.’

Maybe you heard this before. It means that we can form and strengthen pathways in our brain by repetition. So by doing something over and over again, that can be very, very small, we can have sustainable change that you can even see in the brain.

That's the beauty of self-care; maybe taking it small and step by step. And by asking yourself this question first: How much time do I have to invest in self-care?