Ibasho as a source of ikigai
"Ibasho is really a place where we can be ourselves, where we're being true to ourselves, particularly in interpersonal relationships, so friends, family, and activities that we engage in and the people that are part of those experiences.Podcast Highlights
Working together as Vibrant gap year. At 1:30, Karly and Chloe share how they met and started working together.
Merging their business with ikigai. At 9:40, both share why they incorporated their business with ikigai.
Experiencing ibasho. Karly and Chloe share what ibasho means to them at 12:59.
Challenges of being expats. At 17:58, the two share some challenges they faced by being expats.
Discovering Mieko Kamiya’s work. At 29:13, Karly and Chloe share what it is like to learn about Mieko Kamiya and her work.
Experiencing Kamiya’s ikigai needs. At 46:50, both share the ikigai needs they’ve experienced.
Vibrant ikigai coaching. At 51:49, the two talk about their coaching business; what they do and offer.
Ikigai Tribe coaching experience. At 57:58, Karly and Chloe share what it is like the ikigai coaching experience is for them.
Tips for expats. At 1:02:47, the two share some tips for expats.
Karly Christ and Chloe Le Gouche
Chloe Le Gouce and Karly Christ are both NLP coaches; they empower women through their coaching business, Vibrant Ikigai, where they coach women using the ikigai philosophy. Chloe’s originally from France, while Karly’s from America; both are fluent in English and French. Both are currently living in Texas.
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Working together as Vibrant gap year
Karly and Chloe met through their husbands back in France, in 2012. Karly shares, it was during her second expatriation move, and Chloe was one of the very first people she met. Chloe recalls that at that time, they had a problem communicating because of language barriers. However, that doesn’t stop them from connecting and having a great bond.
About ten years after their encounter in France, they found each other living in the same city again, which is in Texas. It was the summer of 2020, during the time of Covid, and both found themselves unemployed and contemplating life and which path they wanted to take; it was at that time that Karly thought of bringing to life her dream of starting her own business. She had her vision on where she wanted to take it and thought of Chloe as the perfect business partner. Luckily, Chloe agreed to take part in it; she loved the idea of coaching young women in their gap years and helping them discover who they really are, opening their eyes to the world.
Merging their business with ikigai
Incorporating ikigai into their business is something that Chloe suggested; she thought that it would be great to include the concept within the gap year space, to which Karly agreed. They thought of ways how they can apply it to their coaching business, thus, they began exploring the concept and ended up finding Nick and the Ikigai Tribe, which gave them clarity of what the ikigai is all about.
Experiencing ibasho
Ibasho (authentic relationships) is a concept Karly and Chloe learned from Nick’s coaching program. For Karly, it is a place where she can be herself, particularly in interpersonal relationships – her friends, families – all the people involved in the activities she engages in. She shares that she has numerous ibasho in her life, all from which she feels being her authentic self. The same thing with Chloe, she thinks that ibasho can be people, and also places where people make memories with others.Challenges of being expats
While having the opportunity to live in other countries is exciting, some challenges come from being an expat. Chloe shares that when she moved to the US, although being thrilled, she experienced some difficulties; living abroad felt like she lost ibasho because she had to leave behind her family and friends in her hometown. Moreover, she had to adapt to her new environment – finding a new job, communicating with people, and finding food similar to what she’s used to.Karly agrees that there are some challenges that come from being an expat; people have to deal with negotiating with different cultures – different ways of knowing, doing things, and communicating. She shares that she felt this when she moved to France, where she had to learn a new language and adapt to a different lifestyle.
Discovering Mieko Kamiya’s work
Through Nick’s coaching program, Karly and Chloe were able to discover Kamiya Mieko and her work on ikigai; all three of them agree that Kamiya deserves recognition for her work. One thing they discussed was Kamiya’s 8 ikigai needs: life satisfaction, change and growth, a bright future, resonance, freedom, self-actualization, meaning and value, and a sense of purpose.
Karly states that the 8 ikigai needs are helpful for expats – those having to deal with the changes of living in a different country, and one essential thing to have in order to experience it is ibasho. She believes that pursuing hobbies and activities will help people create ibasho while fulfilling the ikigai needs.
Nick agrees that hobbies are the best way to find ibasho and a good source of ikigai. Moreover, they bring people together and have shared experiences.
Experiencing Kamiya’s ikigai needs
Karly shares, one of the ikigai needs that expats experience is change and growth; it is something that naturally comes with moving to a different country; living in a different environment forces people to come out of their comfort zones, thus, offering more experiences for change and growth. In addition to that, Chloe thinks that the need for freedom is also something that expats experience; living abroad gives people the freedom to create the life they want, and there is a sense of independence – that you are in control of your life.
Nick agreed that moving to a new country is life-changing, and the more people get to experience the 8 ikigai needs: they change and grow; anticipate a bright future; they experience resonance as they make new friendships; they have the freedom to navigate their lives; they self-actualize whenever they learn new things; they find new meaning and value to their lives; and feel a sense of purpose with a new lifestyle.
Vibrant Ikigai Coaching
With the use of Nick’s ikigai methodology, Karly and Chloe provide coaching to women, often expats, who are wanting to change their careers, or those who are at a turning point in their lives. They have a 2-hour workshop where they go over Kamiya’s 8 ikigai needs; they also offer a one-to-one coaching program, a 4-month program that takes an in-depth approach to the 8 ikigai needs that can help their clients attain their goals. They also plan to have free masterclasses for women wanting to learn more about the concept of ikigai.
Ikigai Tribe coaching experience
Both are grateful for the opportunity to be part of Nick’s coaching program. Karly shares that she’s grateful to know the other members of their cohort, where they were able to share their knowledge and experiences. For Chloe, she thinks that it is a game changer as they were able to go deep into their emotions, share how exactly they are feeling, and resonate the ikigai philosophy into their lives.
Tips for expats
Take language classes. You will not only benefit from learning the language of the country, but you’ll get out of your house and meet new people. And those people may become your ibasho, and they'll be there for you. It will make you feel less alone and give you a support system. - Karly Christ
The two share some tips for those living an expat life: first is to take language classes; Karly shares that people will not only benefit from learning the language of the country, but it also opens up opportunities to meet new people.
Do the activities that you love. If you did something in your home country, do it in your new country. If you used to go to the gym, find your gym, if you went to a yoga class, find your yoga class, it doesn't matter. If you can't understand the instructor, just jump in and go with it. - Chloe Le Gouche
Second, Chloe shares that people should do the activities that they love; they should continue doing the things that they used to do in their home country.
Put things on the calendar that you can look forward to, and always have something on the horizon that brings you a feeling of ikigai when you think of it. So this could be a long weekend trip, a nice dinner at a restaurant in your new city, or it could be a local cultural activity that is coming up. - Karly Christ
Lastly, putting things on the calendar so that people have something to look forward to; something to anticipate, that may give them a feeling of ikigai. More importantly, they think that it is important to always live in the present moment to make the most of their expat life.
Conclusion
Living an expat life may be risky but can also be a rewarding experience. It might be uncomfortable at first, as it forces people to come out of their comfort zones. However, these challenges of living in a new country may lead to new opportunities, and learnings, and help build new relationships. It gives people a chance to reflect on their lives, thus, allowing them to feel more ikigai.